I’m not sure why it is so hard for people like Donald Trump to understand this very basic principle. It is a lesson my parents taught me when I was three years old, and one they have continued to remind me of throughout life. Today’s Mantra comes at a time when it’s more necessary than ever to understand the power of words and the importance they hold.
In case you’ve missed them, here are some of the terrible things Donald Trump has said:
“Yeah, she’s really something, and what a beauty, that one. If I weren’t happily married and, ya know, her father…”
“You could see there was blood coming out of her eyes, blood coming out of her wherever”
“Heidi Klum. Sadly, she’s no longer a 10.”
“You know, it really doesn’t matter what the media write as long as you’ve got a young, and beautiful, piece of ass.”
“When Mexico sends its people, they’re not sending the best. They’re not sending you, they’re sending people that have lots of problems and they’re bringing those problems with us. They’re bringing drugs. They’re bring crime. They’re rapists… And some, I assume, are good people.”
“Our great African-American President hasn’t exactly had a positive impact on the thugs who are so happily and openly destroying Baltimore.”
“The beauty of me is that I’m very rich.”
“It’s freezing and snowing in New York – we need global warming!”
“Number one, I have great respect for women. I was the one that really broke the glass ceiling on behalf of women, more than anybody in the construction industry.”
“And isn’t it funny. I’ve got black accountants at Trump Castle and Trump Plaza. Black guys counting my money! I hate it. The only kind of people I want counting my money are short guys that wear yarmulkes every day. . . . I think the guy is lazy. And it’s probably not his fault because laziness is a trait in blacks. It really is, I believe that. It’s not anything they can control.”
As disturbing as all of those may be, it was after the release of the hot mic fiasco of 2005, that even more people took notice- specifically fellow GOP members. Continue cringing below.
“Yeah, that’s her, with the gold. I’ve got to use some Tic Tacs*, just in case I start kissing her. You know I’m automatically attracted to beautiful — I just start kissing them. It’s like a magnet. I just kiss. I don’t even wait. And when you’re a star, they let you do it. You can do anything.”
“Grab them by the pussy. You can do anything.”
and when pressured for a response, Trump gave an excuse so juvenile, it might have been more harmful than the language itself.
TRUMP: “I’ve never said I’m a perfect person, nor pretended to be someone that I’m not. I’ve said and done things I regret, and the words released today on this more than a decade-old video are one of them. Anyone who knows me knows these words don’t reflect who I am… This was locker-room banter, a private conversation that took place many years ago.”
This justification of “locker-room banter” is so undeniably part of the problem. Everything Trump was describing was sexual assault (not to mention misogynistic and abhorrent for any human, let alone a candidate for presidency), and the blasé attitude with which he did it resembled that of a well-seasoned predator, indifferent to the feelings of others. It perpetuates rape-culture and the objectification of women. He excuses his repulsive behavior by saying it was part of a normal, cultural phenomenon- something to be expected and tolerated by society. He says it was so long ago, as if time somehow negates filth or weakens the blatant sexism in a “private” (aka honest) conversation that so clearly displayed the very fabric of his poisonous being.
Nothing excuses those words, Donald.
Say what you mean and ALWAYS mean what you say.
*As Gina Mei so expertly said it – “Tic Tac would like very much to be excluded from Donald Trump’s 2005 narrative — one that they never asked to be a part of.”